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Wash that relationship out of your hair, break that habit, don’t keep asking why, when you keep going back.

Stop beating yourself up!

Asking why over and over looking for that flaw deep inside ourself. Getting angry with yourself. Bashing your self worth into smithereens.

Speaking to a woman who called for help, unable to let go of an unhealthy relationship, keeps stepping her toes back in every couple of weeks.

Making herself wrong.

My first word of advice, be kind to herself, it is ok to be drawn back, your emotions aren’t a tap.

What she could try instead, to stop the constant meshing of energy over and over is try these things and give herself time to heal:

  • Stop trying to be friends and give herself time to heal
  • Stop going out for dinner to discuss the splitting of property and other things, do it by phone or email
  • The vision she has for herself over the next 12 months, write it down, make a vision board

Break the habit, that is it, that is all it is.

Stop delving in the why, overthinking, trying to figure out what is wrong with her, making herself wrong.

There is cheese down that rabbit hole, except darkness, and a place that will keep her hurt and wounded for longer.

Be kind and gentle, break free of the habit, wash that relationship out of her hair.



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